For those of you who know me, you’ll know that image is important to me. I happen to believe that when I look good on the outside, I feel good on the inside. Conversely, if I feel like sh!t internally, it often manifests itself externally. It’s not often you’ll see me without make up and in Uggs but if you do, call my Mum; it means I’m having a really bad day!
As much as I love fashion, image and style, I believe that there is an even more important reflection that we should all be looking out for. It has nothing to do with designer labels, or contouring (still haven’t mastered that. Tried it once, looked like a cast member from the West End stage show of The Lion King!). No, this reflection has nothing to do with the way we look. It’s about the way we are.
Last week, I was qualifying a prospective client and when I asked her if she had any questions regarding my Forever Love Program, she asked me this:
“If you could only give one piece of dating advice, what would it be?”
And I’ll tell you what I told her. It’s this:
BE the person you want to date. It’s that simple.
Let me give you an example:
Suzie is a client of mine and when she first enrolled in (what is now known as) my Forever Love Program, she didn’t have a clue what she was looking for in a partner. I gave her an exercise to do which helped her get really clear on the qualities and values she wanted in a man. One of the things she listed was that her ideal man would go to the gym regularly (4-5 times a week) and be fit healthy and this would be reflected in his physical appearance. Now there was one little problem in this. Suzie herself was 10kg overweight, hadn’t used her gym membership in 8 months and openly admitted that she counted wine as one of her 5 a day!
So my question to her was this. If you want your partner to value health and vitality in himself, doesn’t it make sense that he’ll be looking for that in his future partner too? If Suzie wanted to attract Mr Gym, she needed to become Mrs Gym herself. She was never going to find her ideal partner if she wasn’t being her ideal self.
The universe will always reflect back at you the person that you are and this is true for all areas of your life. Every relationship you have is a reflection of you. If you have drama and betrayal in your life, where are you being dramatic and who are you betraying (even if it’s yourself)? If you surround yourself with kind, compassionate people, chances are you are kind and compassionate too.
Funnily enough, when Suzie heard this she was inspired to dust off her gym membership card, forage to the back of her active wear draw for something that fit and got her arse to the gym! 4 months later, she was happily dating Dave. And guess where she met Dave! AT THE FREAKING GYM!
This world is like a giant mirror (disco) ball. It’s spinning around, throwing shapes onto the dance floor and reflecting YOU back at YOU. So if you want to attract your ideal partner, you have to be your ideal self. Now I’m not saying that you need to be perfect, or that you’re never going to grow, change or develop yourself. But take an inward look now and then and really ask yourself if your actions, thoughts and deeds align themselves with the person you say you want to be and what you expect from those around you.
Don’t forget that the law of attraction dictates that we will always get back what we give. So my greatest piece of dating advice is to go forth and BE the person you want to date.
Start by downloading my FREE RESOUCE HERE which is designed to get you really clear on who your ideal partner is. Once you know that, you can embody those qualities yourself. Go and BE your ideal you!
Please like and share this post, show your friends, your sister, your colleagues, anyone who needs a reminder that love starts in self. Once self-love is nailed, we’ll naturally attract the love we desire from others. And if you feel like you could do with a helping hand navigating that crazy thing called love, then get in touch with me today by booking in a free 10-minute chat here.
But be quick, I only have limited space in my calendar and these spots fill up quickly.
Love, Em x